Our most important lessons are our hardest. They are the lessons that we wish would just disappear because we cannot see how we can deal with them without going through pain.

Who do you know who is not experiencing pain at some level in their lives? There are many of us who are currently experiencing pain within our relationships. Here are some of the scenario’s I have come across:

1. I can’t seem to rid myself of abusive relationships, as much as I want to change this, I can’t see how

2. I can’t seem to attract the right person into my life – most of my friends are in relationships, why aren’t I?

3. My children have sided with their father since our divorce and I can’t seem to get through to them, what can I do?

4. My husband doesn’t understand the changes that I am going through and I fear that if we can’t share common interests then our relationship is over. How can we work this out?

5. I can’t work out what I need to do, to make my wife happy. Everything I try is never good enough. I can’t win. What else can I do?

6. My employees don’t listen to me. Why can’t they just do as they are asked?

7. My partner’s ex is always breathing down our neck and I feel like I am living in a goldfish bowl. How can I get rid of this person?

8. My boss doesn’t treat me with respect. Why am I being treated this way?

9. I don’t know what I should do with my life. My parents want me to have a respectable job, one that will earn good money. I know that if I ‘me’’, I will disappoint them. How can I please them and be happy with myself?

10. I can’t love in a way that I feel I should be able to. What should I do?

11. My partner’s children are demanding. I don’t want to leave our relationship but can’t bear the thought of having to deal with them. Do I have to lose out either way?

12. I should have done more with my life but things just never worked out for me in that way. How can I be happy with what I have?

13. I don’t think that I am a good parent. How can I give myself to my children without feeling resentful?

14. I’m being dominated by someone at work and I can’t find the courage to stand up to them. How can I get out of this situation?

15. My friends don’t respect my boundaries and I feel pressured to do things I’m not comfortable with. How can I be true to myself without upsetting them?

16. I never feel that I am good enough. How can I make these feelings about myself go away?

And the list goes on.

What do we need to do, in order to find harmony within our relationships?